Stop having them ...

I was delighted to experience the fun and frolicking that was sponsored by the Task Force Sunday evening at Lannie's Clocktower . A short presentation of the film, For My Wife, a documentary about the tragic death of Charlene Strong's partner, Kate Fleming, was shown to remind us that while we have come far, we have far to go.

Sometimes I sit in these rooms, full of queer activists, and I really wonder why it's all necessary. Why does our love for our partners and spouses frighten people into such strongly emotional and (often) dangerous reactions? The only reason our relationships become a hardship is because other people work to make it so. And it is a learned behavior. People learn to move from curiosity to fear and resistance as they age.

When Lannie began her show, she was hilarious. And in the midst of the comedy, there was as usual, some pointed truth. "I don't understand all this fuss about gays getting married. I think if the straight people don't like gay people .... they should stop having them. I mean they are the ones creating the problem, maybe that's who shouldn't be allowed to get married!"

A few years ago, Washington state activists began a campaign to require married heterosexuals to have children within three years, or have their marriage declared invalid by the state. It makes sense to me, if marriage is about procreation, then you ought to get to it!